FINAL UPDATE (11/2024):
Subsequent visits to Johns Hopkins and the Minnesota Mayo Clinic confirmed my suspicion. My final diagnosis is Restrictive Cardiomyopathy -- more specifically, Non-tropical Eosinophilic Endomyocardial Fibrosis. 80% die within five years. The world record is understood to be eleven (11) years. As I type this update, I am nearing the end of year eleven, but I'm not doing well. The end of this year (2024) will mark the beginning of year 12 for me. They tell me I'll then hold the record.
Yippee.
UPDATE:
In November 2017 I flew to Boston to be undergo specialized testing. Based on that testing I was diagnosed with an untreatable form of heart failure (HFpEF) and pulmonary hypertension.
The prognosis is grim.
I have none of the usual risk factors so it's a medical mystery why this hit me. The doctors agree: the most likely scenario is that this is part of the aftermath of the December 2013 adverse drug reaction.
I've been reaching out to the nation's top heart failure specialists but the news isn't good.
Not an easy message to read. Not an easy message to deliver.
Before you read the story, please know where things stand today (November 2016).
I moved into my brand-new, first-ever house in February 2009.
I was disabled but I was fit, strong, healthy, and active. At various times I could ride my bicycle, hike, ride my motorcycle, ski, and snowshoe. I was learning to be a hobbyist woodworker. In 45-60 minute 'bursts,' I learned that -- given enough time -- I could actually make pieces of furniture in my wood shop.
I was in chronic pain, had chemically burned eyes, was visually impaired, and had a Primary Immune Deficiency, but ... I was doing okay within my limitations and was doing everything I could to expand my life within those limitations.
Now ... 7-1/2 years later ... I have been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (or Myalgic Encephalomyelitis or Systemic Exertion Intolerance Disease).
I'm now having all kinds of health problems, including heart problems (atrial fibrillation, atrial flutter, orthostatic hypotension, postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome) and infections that I can't safely fight off. Life had been reduced to watching/listening to TV and walking the dog. The doctors are now telling me that I have to stop walking the dog.
I truly did lose everything -- my home, my life's savings, and my health -- because I asked to be able to sleep in my own home.
A wonderful local investigative journalist has released a series of about two dozen videos telling my story. Those videos can be found HERE.
A direct link to much of the original correspondence -- in everybody's own words -- can be found here.
I've also created context-specific hyperlinks throughout the post below. If you click on them, they will take you directly to the relevant document(s).
Please also take a few minutes and look at the page, "Lies They Told The Police." It's critical.
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This is the full version of the story. It might take 10 or 15 minutes to read.
Though a significant amount of important detail is omitted, for those who need a quick summary, please start here.
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In my sleep, I still see all the guns pointed at me, the flash of light from the sniper’s scope, and the tank.
In November 2017 I flew to Boston to be undergo specialized testing. Based on that testing I was diagnosed with an untreatable form of heart failure (HFpEF) and pulmonary hypertension.
The prognosis is grim.
I have none of the usual risk factors so it's a medical mystery why this hit me. The doctors agree: the most likely scenario is that this is part of the aftermath of the December 2013 adverse drug reaction.
I've been reaching out to the nation's top heart failure specialists but the news isn't good.
Not an easy message to read. Not an easy message to deliver.
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Before you read the story, please know where things stand today (November 2016).
I moved into my brand-new, first-ever house in February 2009.
I was disabled but I was fit, strong, healthy, and active. At various times I could ride my bicycle, hike, ride my motorcycle, ski, and snowshoe. I was learning to be a hobbyist woodworker. In 45-60 minute 'bursts,' I learned that -- given enough time -- I could actually make pieces of furniture in my wood shop.
I was in chronic pain, had chemically burned eyes, was visually impaired, and had a Primary Immune Deficiency, but ... I was doing okay within my limitations and was doing everything I could to expand my life within those limitations.
Now ... 7-1/2 years later ... I have been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (or Myalgic Encephalomyelitis or Systemic Exertion Intolerance Disease).
I'm now having all kinds of health problems, including heart problems (atrial fibrillation, atrial flutter, orthostatic hypotension, postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome) and infections that I can't safely fight off. Life had been reduced to watching/listening to TV and walking the dog. The doctors are now telling me that I have to stop walking the dog.
I truly did lose everything -- my home, my life's savings, and my health -- because I asked to be able to sleep in my own home.
A wonderful local investigative journalist has released a series of about two dozen videos telling my story. Those videos can be found HERE.
A direct link to much of the original correspondence -- in everybody's own words -- can be found here.
I've also created context-specific hyperlinks throughout the post below. If you click on them, they will take you directly to the relevant document(s).
Please also take a few minutes and look at the page, "Lies They Told The Police." It's critical.
--
This is the full version of the story. It might take 10 or 15 minutes to read.
Though a significant amount of important detail is omitted, for those who need a quick summary, please start here.
--
In my sleep, I still see all the guns pointed at me, the flash of light from the sniper’s scope, and the tank.
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My wife and I moved to Fort Collins, Colorado, in October 2008.
Having visited the town on several occasions, we fell in love with the lifestyle that defines Fort Collins: rather small-town hospitality and pace, with most of the city amenities, weather that works for our favorite activities, a host of outdoor options, and relatively affordable housing.
We bought a property from a local builder, and put together the specifications for our semi-custom dream house.
It would take about six months to complete. The floor plan was already set. We had no choice about that. We were, however, able to pick interior finishes, appliances, and other 'minor options.'
We rented a house, during construction.
I have been medically disabled since 2004.
I was born with a complicated laundry list of eye problems, and a Primary Immune Dysfunction. For over six years, one of the eye problems was treated with eye drops that -- I later found out -- burned my corneas, leaving me in severe, chronic pain.
I had to leave a career as a Director and Vice President of several different corporations.
I now have to wear fluid-filled, custom-made contact lenses while I am awake, and was treated for the chronic pain that the eye issues cause. It is only because of the gift of these lenses that I could tolerate the dry, windy, wintry climate of Northern Colorado. But the lenses are maintenance-intensive, ridiculously expensive, and ... I cannot ... MUST not ... sleep in them.
My underlying eye issues are particularly severe when doing “close work,” like reading and using computers. My focusing muscles are like having two bad knees, with focusing being a lot like standing up and squatting down. While standing up and squatting down should be fairly easy, in my case, my knees (focusing muscles) tend to either give out or lock up. Imagine being locked with your knees bent at 90 degrees … for hours and hours and hours. When I use my eyes for reading or computer work, that’s what happens – I get a ‘charley horse’ in my eyes.
My wife and I moved to Fort Collins, Colorado, in October 2008.
Having visited the town on several occasions, we fell in love with the lifestyle that defines Fort Collins: rather small-town hospitality and pace, with most of the city amenities, weather that works for our favorite activities, a host of outdoor options, and relatively affordable housing.
We bought a property from a local builder, and put together the specifications for our semi-custom dream house.
It would take about six months to complete. The floor plan was already set. We had no choice about that. We were, however, able to pick interior finishes, appliances, and other 'minor options.'
We rented a house, during construction.
I have been medically disabled since 2004.
I was born with a complicated laundry list of eye problems, and a Primary Immune Dysfunction. For over six years, one of the eye problems was treated with eye drops that -- I later found out -- burned my corneas, leaving me in severe, chronic pain.
I had to leave a career as a Director and Vice President of several different corporations.
I now have to wear fluid-filled, custom-made contact lenses while I am awake, and was treated for the chronic pain that the eye issues cause. It is only because of the gift of these lenses that I could tolerate the dry, windy, wintry climate of Northern Colorado. But the lenses are maintenance-intensive, ridiculously expensive, and ... I cannot ... MUST not ... sleep in them.
My underlying eye issues are particularly severe when doing “close work,” like reading and using computers. My focusing muscles are like having two bad knees, with focusing being a lot like standing up and squatting down. While standing up and squatting down should be fairly easy, in my case, my knees (focusing muscles) tend to either give out or lock up. Imagine being locked with your knees bent at 90 degrees … for hours and hours and hours. When I use my eyes for reading or computer work, that’s what happens – I get a ‘charley horse’ in my eyes.
Medically, I need to be outside
as much as possible, bicycling, hiking, snowshoeing, walking, running, or
nearly any other activity that lets me focus on things off in the distance –
straightening out my legs, so to speak.
The exercise is also necessary to help me strengthen my ability to fight off infections.
As our new house was being built, my wife and I noticed that the structure extended nearly all the way back to the property line, behind the house -- much farther than the neighboring house to the North of ours.
As a result, the entire master bedroom was “in the backyard” of the neighbors’ house, and a mere couple of feet away.
No reason to be alarmed, I thought. While the houses were very close together, my wife and I picked this neighborhood because of the clear sense of community and friendly people who lived there.
The way our house was situated could have been an issue, but we felt quite comfortable that -- if noise ever became an issue -- we’d be dealing, reasonably, with reasonable people, and could resolve any issues that might arise, between neighbors.
We moved into our new house in February 2009. Almost immediately, I realized that the neighbors had two young dogs who barked.
And barked a lot.
And barked exceptionally loudly.
The young sister dogs were a ‘cattle dog mix,’ a breed known for its intense, high-pitched bark.
The dogs barked early in the morning, late at night, and -- on most days -- for hours on end, while their owners were away.
And the dogs' owners were away a great deal of the time – all day long, and for days on end.
Because I often cannot fall asleep for hours because of the pain in my eyes -- particularly once I remove the special contact lenses – I was being awakened, over and over and over.
Upon awakening, it feels like there's ground glass in my eyes. Like there's molten ground glass in my eyes. It's terrible. The pain is excruciating. I was losing hours of sleep each day, and … because of the all-day barking … I couldn’t even take a much-needed catnap.
This began a spiral of fatigue and increasing pain that led me back to the doctors at the pain clinic, for relief. Increased medications led to increased fatigue. Increased sleep deprivation led to increased pain. It was a vicious cycle. I was trapped in it. It was just a horrible nightmare.
I told my wife that the dog owners were probably used to living next to an empty lot. I was sure that they would adjust to having people live next door. I chose to give them a bit of time to see if the problem resolved on its own, before bringing it up.
But the problem didn’t resolve. The hour after hour, day after day barking just continued.
The barking echoed throughout my house, no matter how many doors and windows were closed, or what kind of earplugs or background noise I used to minimize the noise. The houses were mere feet apart. The barking dogs were as close as about arm's length from the entire side of my house.
Without the barking of the neighbors’ dogs, the neighborhood -- well, at least our house -- was just about dead silent, nearly all the time. It was unbelievable to me just how intense these barks were, coming against a background of such profound quiet. It was like a bomb going off. Not only was it horrendously loud, but it was what they call an “impulse” noise – very sudden – as opposed to sounds like traffic that are pretty constant.
After a couple of months of this, I finally wrote a kindly-worded note to the neighbors, explaining my medical circumstances, and the toll it was taking on my health. I invited the dog owners to come to our house, to meet, chat, and talk about the barking issue.
For a week or so, things seemed to get better. I sent the neighbors a fruit basket to express my thanks.
But the respite didn’t last. The barking problem returned, and quickly.
I, again, sent a kindly-worded note. Again, I offered to meet and chat, over a glass of wine or a dinner.
By this time, the fatigue was catching up with me. I was having great difficulty pursuing the outdoor activities that were so critical to the health of my eyes, and ... I began to get sick.
This time, though, the neighbors' response wasn't particularly cordial. They said that “other dogs bark, too,” despite the fact that no other dogs were barking mere feet from my bedroom, waking me up, or preventing me from sleeping in any room of my house.
Finally, after about seven months of this, fighting to remain physically active, and now on antibiotics for an illness that wouldn’t let up, the dogs barked for over an hour, at about 11:00 at night, while I was trying desperately to sleep.
One of the dog-owners -- a professional bicycle racer -- was in Italy, for a race, at the time.
I sent her an e-mail, letting her know that her dogs, again, were barking continuously, and preventing me from sleeping.
She sent an e-mail back, telling me -- at 11pm, and already sick -- to “walk next door and talk to her husband about it.”
But nobody was home at the neighbors’ house, and the dogs’ barking wasn't stopping.
At this point, I told the neighbors that the barking was not only a problem for me, but that it might point to a problem with the dogs themselves. Maybe they were frightened, anxious, lonely, bored, or even scared.
The dog-owners dug their heels in. They insisted that there was nothing wrong with their dogs, and -- in effect -- nothing more that they would do.
The dog-owners let me know, that it was time for me to leave them alone.
I reached out to Animal Control, citing the pre-sunrise barking, the near-midnight barking, and the hours-on-end, day-after-day barking. On several occasions, I held the phone in the air, allowing Animal Control to listen to as much of the non-stop barking as they wanted.
Despite having a conversation with the dog-owners, Animal Control would go no further. They claimed to require statements from complainants at two separate addresses. As I later found out, this wasn't actually Animal Control's policy.
I explained that nobody else’s house was situated the way mine was, and that the dog-owners' other neighbor worked and traveled a great deal. She also had a SECOND floor bedroom, well out of the "line of fire." I’m sure the barking was nowhere near the intrusion for the other neighbor that it was in our house.
The exercise is also necessary to help me strengthen my ability to fight off infections.
As our new house was being built, my wife and I noticed that the structure extended nearly all the way back to the property line, behind the house -- much farther than the neighboring house to the North of ours.
As a result, the entire master bedroom was “in the backyard” of the neighbors’ house, and a mere couple of feet away.
No reason to be alarmed, I thought. While the houses were very close together, my wife and I picked this neighborhood because of the clear sense of community and friendly people who lived there.
The way our house was situated could have been an issue, but we felt quite comfortable that -- if noise ever became an issue -- we’d be dealing, reasonably, with reasonable people, and could resolve any issues that might arise, between neighbors.
We moved into our new house in February 2009. Almost immediately, I realized that the neighbors had two young dogs who barked.
And barked a lot.
And barked exceptionally loudly.
The young sister dogs were a ‘cattle dog mix,’ a breed known for its intense, high-pitched bark.
The dogs barked early in the morning, late at night, and -- on most days -- for hours on end, while their owners were away.
And the dogs' owners were away a great deal of the time – all day long, and for days on end.
Because I often cannot fall asleep for hours because of the pain in my eyes -- particularly once I remove the special contact lenses – I was being awakened, over and over and over.
Upon awakening, it feels like there's ground glass in my eyes. Like there's molten ground glass in my eyes. It's terrible. The pain is excruciating. I was losing hours of sleep each day, and … because of the all-day barking … I couldn’t even take a much-needed catnap.
This began a spiral of fatigue and increasing pain that led me back to the doctors at the pain clinic, for relief. Increased medications led to increased fatigue. Increased sleep deprivation led to increased pain. It was a vicious cycle. I was trapped in it. It was just a horrible nightmare.
I told my wife that the dog owners were probably used to living next to an empty lot. I was sure that they would adjust to having people live next door. I chose to give them a bit of time to see if the problem resolved on its own, before bringing it up.
But the problem didn’t resolve. The hour after hour, day after day barking just continued.
The barking echoed throughout my house, no matter how many doors and windows were closed, or what kind of earplugs or background noise I used to minimize the noise. The houses were mere feet apart. The barking dogs were as close as about arm's length from the entire side of my house.
Without the barking of the neighbors’ dogs, the neighborhood -- well, at least our house -- was just about dead silent, nearly all the time. It was unbelievable to me just how intense these barks were, coming against a background of such profound quiet. It was like a bomb going off. Not only was it horrendously loud, but it was what they call an “impulse” noise – very sudden – as opposed to sounds like traffic that are pretty constant.
After a couple of months of this, I finally wrote a kindly-worded note to the neighbors, explaining my medical circumstances, and the toll it was taking on my health. I invited the dog owners to come to our house, to meet, chat, and talk about the barking issue.
For a week or so, things seemed to get better. I sent the neighbors a fruit basket to express my thanks.
But the respite didn’t last. The barking problem returned, and quickly.
I, again, sent a kindly-worded note. Again, I offered to meet and chat, over a glass of wine or a dinner.
By this time, the fatigue was catching up with me. I was having great difficulty pursuing the outdoor activities that were so critical to the health of my eyes, and ... I began to get sick.
This time, though, the neighbors' response wasn't particularly cordial. They said that “other dogs bark, too,” despite the fact that no other dogs were barking mere feet from my bedroom, waking me up, or preventing me from sleeping in any room of my house.
Finally, after about seven months of this, fighting to remain physically active, and now on antibiotics for an illness that wouldn’t let up, the dogs barked for over an hour, at about 11:00 at night, while I was trying desperately to sleep.
One of the dog-owners -- a professional bicycle racer -- was in Italy, for a race, at the time.
I sent her an e-mail, letting her know that her dogs, again, were barking continuously, and preventing me from sleeping.
She sent an e-mail back, telling me -- at 11pm, and already sick -- to “walk next door and talk to her husband about it.”
But nobody was home at the neighbors’ house, and the dogs’ barking wasn't stopping.
At this point, I told the neighbors that the barking was not only a problem for me, but that it might point to a problem with the dogs themselves. Maybe they were frightened, anxious, lonely, bored, or even scared.
The dog-owners dug their heels in. They insisted that there was nothing wrong with their dogs, and -- in effect -- nothing more that they would do.
The dog-owners let me know, that it was time for me to leave them alone.
I reached out to Animal Control, citing the pre-sunrise barking, the near-midnight barking, and the hours-on-end, day-after-day barking. On several occasions, I held the phone in the air, allowing Animal Control to listen to as much of the non-stop barking as they wanted.
Despite having a conversation with the dog-owners, Animal Control would go no further. They claimed to require statements from complainants at two separate addresses. As I later found out, this wasn't actually Animal Control's policy.
I explained that nobody else’s house was situated the way mine was, and that the dog-owners' other neighbor worked and traveled a great deal. She also had a SECOND floor bedroom, well out of the "line of fire." I’m sure the barking was nowhere near the intrusion for the other neighbor that it was in our house.
I wrote to Animal Control, explaining the circumstances, and pleading with them TO act, in this case.
They wouldn't act.
The barking continued.
I asked the Fort Collins Police Department to intervene.
They wouldn’t.
The only animal noise complaints that they pursued were based on referrals from Animal Control, who had already refused to act OR refer the matter. Apparently, this is a pretty common catch-22 in many cities.
I was stuck.
My health was deteriorating. I was chronically exhausted. My vision was getting worse. It was all but impossible for me to engage in the critically important outdoor pursuits.
As my long-time primary care ophthalmologist had always said, "Four things will ALWAYS make your vision worse: fatigue, illness, stress, and intoxication." At this point, I had all four strikes against me. I was a medical wreck.
I reached out to the property manager of the neighborhood’s Homeowners’ Association -- letting them know that this had been going on for eight months, and that all civil, friendly, and reasonable efforts to resolve it, between neighbors, had failed.
I let them know the toll it was taking on my health, and pleaded with her to help.
She promised to help.
But things didn't get better.
Reaching out to the property manager, again, I was told that “the Homeowners’ Association does not want [us] to pursue any further action.” They recommended that I “contact a Board member.”
I was among the last to move into this rather small neighborhood -- one where the close-knit feeling among the residents had a strong appeal. But I quickly realized that this close-knit community was a double-edged sword.
Dealing with worsening medical issues, since shortly after moving in, meant that I hadn't been able to “join” the community, as I had hoped to, and that the Homeowner’s Association comprised this tight-knit group of friends.
I asked the property manager for the contact information for the Board members. She gave me only one name: that of the Vice President of the HOA's Board of Directors.
Meanwhile, the situation appeared on the radar screen of the City’s Mediation Coordinator.
The Mediation person mailed a letter to me, asking if I would be interested in mediation. I responded that I would be glad for the opportunity, and -- on several occasions -- asked her to call me to talk things over.
The Mediator never called me back, despite me leaving several voice mail messages and sending numerous emails trying to speak with her.
I sent the HOA's Vice President a note, explaining the magnitude of the barking problem, the impact it was having on me, and the neighborly way in which I had asked the neighbors for help in resolving the issue.
The HOA Vice President wrote back, saying that the HOA wasn't going to take any steps to resolve the issue, “since there are so many folks with dogs,” and “they all know that our own dogs are prone to bark at times, and do not wish to be hypocrites.”
Nobody would ever just speak to me about the problem, no matter how often I asked to meet.
Nobody stopped by to see the unfortunate proximity of my home and bedroom to where the dogs spent most of their waking hours, or to understand that there was no escape, within my home, from the intrusion of the barking, and that the barking wasn't just a brief and occasional issue, but would go on hour after hour, day after day.
After a while, I wrote back to the HOA Vice President, pleading with him to reconsider, to understand the circumstances involved, that the problem wasn't occasional and annoying, but inescapable, chronic, and taking a devastating toll on my health.
I offered to meet with the Board, anywhere, and at any time, to go over the particulars and make my case.
The HOA Vice President didn’t respond.
I reached out to him one last time, asking for the contact information for the entire Board of Directors.
The HOA Vice President then responded with a shocking list of reasons why he didn’t like me, personally, and explaining how close his friendship was with the dog-owning neighbors. It was just a scathing and vicious personal attack.
While the HOA Vice President had only met me, personally, once, and briefly, he went on and on, for several paragraphs, about all of the things that he thought were wrong with me, none of which were true, and none of which had anything to do with the actual problem.
Rather than explore the truth of the barking situation, the HOA Vice President and his neighbors began looking into me, personally, looking for ways to demonize me, rather than address the barking issue, itself.
And, still, not a soul would meet
with me or talk to me.
The HOA Vice President closed by telling me to leave him and everybody else in the neighborhood alone, and made it clear that -- while I had done everything in my power to keep this issue confined to only the people in a position to do anything about it -- it had become a neighborhood-wide issue, and that “the majority of the neighborhood” had turned on me.
I scheduled a Mediation date with the neighbors, despite never having had a chance to talk with the Mediator, directly.
When the Mediation date came, my wife and I were there. Nobody else was.
Apparently, the Mediator had canceled the Mediation, but never told me.
Seeing no further “friendly” options, and being too sick to consider moving, I consulted an attorney, and asked her to try to convince the neighbors to curb the dogs’ barking.
The neighbors refused, eventually threatening to sue me for “harassment.” By this point, my health was a mess. I was virtually unable to get outside, and had been battling exhaustion for the better part of a year. Now, the dog owners were threatening to sue me. I was being treated with multiple antibiotics, antivirals, antifungals, steroids, and monthly IV infusions of Immune Globulin.
Nothing was working. The medical bills were piling up. My health was just crumbling.
In the spring of 2010, more than a year into life with chronic barking, I was now battling insomnia, struggling for any sleep that I could get.
Unable to sleep in the custom contact lenses that I had to wear, I had to leave them out for days at a time, to allow me to nap when I could.
This led to a string of sight-threatening corneal problems that forced me to make a nearly impossible drive to Boston, to be treated, for six weeks, at a specialty eye center, there -- a period that I describe as "a lot like torture." Eight hours a day, five days a week, of enduring excruciating eye pain, in an effort to fit me with new lenses.
I asked my attorney what I should do.
She suggested that my wife and I file lawsuits against the neighbors for Private Nuisance, and against the HOA Vice President and the Homeowners’ Association for Failure to Enforce Covenants, Breach of Duty of Care, Breach of Duty of Good Faith, and Breach of Contract.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that the dog-owning neighbors, the HOA Vice President, and our neighborhood friends had banded together to stop me , spread false and vicious rumors about me, and do everything in their power to side with their friends, the dog-owners.
The HOA Vice President closed by telling me to leave him and everybody else in the neighborhood alone, and made it clear that -- while I had done everything in my power to keep this issue confined to only the people in a position to do anything about it -- it had become a neighborhood-wide issue, and that “the majority of the neighborhood” had turned on me.
I scheduled a Mediation date with the neighbors, despite never having had a chance to talk with the Mediator, directly.
When the Mediation date came, my wife and I were there. Nobody else was.
Apparently, the Mediator had canceled the Mediation, but never told me.
Seeing no further “friendly” options, and being too sick to consider moving, I consulted an attorney, and asked her to try to convince the neighbors to curb the dogs’ barking.
The neighbors refused, eventually threatening to sue me for “harassment.” By this point, my health was a mess. I was virtually unable to get outside, and had been battling exhaustion for the better part of a year. Now, the dog owners were threatening to sue me. I was being treated with multiple antibiotics, antivirals, antifungals, steroids, and monthly IV infusions of Immune Globulin.
Nothing was working. The medical bills were piling up. My health was just crumbling.
In the spring of 2010, more than a year into life with chronic barking, I was now battling insomnia, struggling for any sleep that I could get.
Unable to sleep in the custom contact lenses that I had to wear, I had to leave them out for days at a time, to allow me to nap when I could.
This led to a string of sight-threatening corneal problems that forced me to make a nearly impossible drive to Boston, to be treated, for six weeks, at a specialty eye center, there -- a period that I describe as "a lot like torture." Eight hours a day, five days a week, of enduring excruciating eye pain, in an effort to fit me with new lenses.
I asked my attorney what I should do.
She suggested that my wife and I file lawsuits against the neighbors for Private Nuisance, and against the HOA Vice President and the Homeowners’ Association for Failure to Enforce Covenants, Breach of Duty of Care, Breach of Duty of Good Faith, and Breach of Contract.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that the dog-owning neighbors, the HOA Vice President, and our neighborhood friends had banded together to stop me , spread false and vicious rumors about me, and do everything in their power to side with their friends, the dog-owners.
They were totally unconcerned
about the truth, the barking, or the harm it had caused me. They simply sided with their old friends, and
against this new guy.
Rather than ever talk TO me, the
neighbors spent an inordinate amount of time talking ABOUT me.
They had decided that -- since they had “seen [me] ride a bicycle, before,”that I must not be disabled.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that the dog-owners and their friends had reached out to every member of the community, telling them a one-sided version of what had happened, (but neglecting to mention that I'm disabled and that the noise was hurting me) and saying that I was “trying to force them to get rid of their dogs,” rather than simply train them not to bark so much.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that several neighbors often heard the neighbors' dogs bark.
These neighbors lived quite far away from the dogs, relative to my house. If these neighbors heard the barking from 150 feet away, why couldn't they imagine just how loud it must have been in my house, only a few feet away from the dogs ?
In another document, the situation had been presented as me “insisting that the animals are either removed or put down [killed].”
Nothing could have been further from the truth.
They had decided that -- since they had “seen [me] ride a bicycle, before,”that I must not be disabled.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that the dog-owners and their friends had reached out to every member of the community, telling them a one-sided version of what had happened, (but neglecting to mention that I'm disabled and that the noise was hurting me) and saying that I was “trying to force them to get rid of their dogs,” rather than simply train them not to bark so much.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that several neighbors often heard the neighbors' dogs bark.
These neighbors lived quite far away from the dogs, relative to my house. If these neighbors heard the barking from 150 feet away, why couldn't they imagine just how loud it must have been in my house, only a few feet away from the dogs ?
In another document, the situation had been presented as me “insisting that the animals are either removed or put down [killed].”
Nothing could have been further from the truth.
From the beginning, my wife and I
loved the dogs. In fact, I continued
to venture outside in an effort to calm and quiet the dogs, even giving them
treats from time to time – something the neighbors’ attorney deemed
“suspicious” and ordered me to stop.
No. I never had a problem with the dogs. The problem was with the owners.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that the dog-owners had been in lengthy back-and-forth correspondence with the City Mediator (who never returned my phone calls). The Mediator was counseling the dog-owners on how THEY should handle the situation with THEIR ‘annoying neighbor.’
To the Mediator, the dog owners, and the neighborhood, I was the annoying, dog-hating neighbor.
Again: the Mediator never got my side of the story, and never spoke with me.
As I later discovered, the Mediator already had a relationship with the dog-owners.
The Mediator soon left the City of Fort Collins. Her department said that there was no file on my case. Apparently, the Mediator had destroyed it before departing.
The lawsuit was stressful, painful, and extremely expensive for my wife and me.
Eventually, the Judge dismissed the lawsuit against the Homeowners’ Association, ruling that -- no matter how the HOA acted, what they did, what they did not do, or what laws may have been broken -- since it was up to the Homeowners’ Association whether or not they would enforce the dog barking Covenant -- the case was totally without merit.
The Judge never even considered the other legal Causes of Action. I never got my day in court.
The Motion for Summary Judgment, then, was decided in favor of the HOA.
The strategy of the HOA’s attorney was to "prove" that I wasn't disabled at all -- simply factually untrue. They were given piles of medical records – requested from me – that more than substantiated everything I had said.
The Judge throwing out my case meant that -- in the eyes of the Judge -- there were no issues of law or fact that should be decided by a Judge or a jury. In law, this is an extremely high bar. There was no way a Motion for Summary Judgment should ever have been granted in our case.
No. I never had a problem with the dogs. The problem was with the owners.
As part of the lawsuit, I learned that the dog-owners had been in lengthy back-and-forth correspondence with the City Mediator (who never returned my phone calls). The Mediator was counseling the dog-owners on how THEY should handle the situation with THEIR ‘annoying neighbor.’
To the Mediator, the dog owners, and the neighborhood, I was the annoying, dog-hating neighbor.
Again: the Mediator never got my side of the story, and never spoke with me.
As I later discovered, the Mediator already had a relationship with the dog-owners.
The Mediator soon left the City of Fort Collins. Her department said that there was no file on my case. Apparently, the Mediator had destroyed it before departing.
The lawsuit was stressful, painful, and extremely expensive for my wife and me.
Eventually, the Judge dismissed the lawsuit against the Homeowners’ Association, ruling that -- no matter how the HOA acted, what they did, what they did not do, or what laws may have been broken -- since it was up to the Homeowners’ Association whether or not they would enforce the dog barking Covenant -- the case was totally without merit.
The Judge never even considered the other legal Causes of Action. I never got my day in court.
The Motion for Summary Judgment, then, was decided in favor of the HOA.
The strategy of the HOA’s attorney was to "prove" that I wasn't disabled at all -- simply factually untrue. They were given piles of medical records – requested from me – that more than substantiated everything I had said.
The Judge throwing out my case meant that -- in the eyes of the Judge -- there were no issues of law or fact that should be decided by a Judge or a jury. In law, this is an extremely high bar. There was no way a Motion for Summary Judgment should ever have been granted in our case.
Even the Judge-Mediator, with
whom we met, in Denver (at a Court-ordered Mediation), said that there was no
way this could happen. She said that the case was chock full of issues of fact and law.
I was denied my day in court.
The Judge then awarded the HOA $73,000 in legal fees, in addition to the nearly $100,000 in fees that I had already spent.
The Judge then awarded the HOA $73,000 in legal fees, in addition to the nearly $100,000 in fees that I had already spent.
This $73,000 was payable to State Farm Insurance, the policyholder of the HOA's Officers and Directors' insurance.
This took my life’s savings, left me broke, and ... absolutely stunned.
I was reeling.
My wife and I settled with the dog-owners.
We had spent everything we had, and my health was still going downhill.
At this point, my only activities were trips to Denver, to be evaluated by Immunologists, Infectious Disease specialists, and Ear, Nose, and Throat specialists, and to get my monthly IV’s.
My wife and I settled with the dog-owners.
We had spent everything we had, and my health was still going downhill.
At this point, my only activities were trips to Denver, to be evaluated by Immunologists, Infectious Disease specialists, and Ear, Nose, and Throat specialists, and to get my monthly IV’s.
Eventually,
the ENT recommended a sinus surgery to clear up the persistent sinus infection that
hadn’t responded to aggressive multi-drug therapy.
While
recovering from the surgery, and running a fever, one of the neighbors used his
ATV to plow the sidewalks and driveways of the houses on either side of mine. He plowed all of the snow onto my sidewalk,
forcing me – in order to comply with Fort Collins law – to bundle up, perspiring,
feverish, shivering, and – literally – with blood dripping out of my nose --and
dig myself out of the mountains of snow the ATV-owning neighbor had left me.
I, again,
called the Fort Collins Police Department, and begged them to intervene. I told them that the pattern of behavior of
the neighbors – against a medically-disabled man – was escalating. I told the Police Officer that I was “medically
disabled, in chronic pain, have an immune dysfunction, and have been battling
serious health issues.”
She –
literally – laughed out loud at me, and said that this was “the most ridiculous
thing she had ever heard.”
I never recovered my health. Neither could I make it to my next scheduled
trip to the eye specialists in Boston.
Those Boston trips cost me about $12,000, out of pocket, each time I have to go. We just didn't have it, anymore.
Since the time that the Motion for Summary Judgment was decided, in favor of the HOA, I had to file multiple police reports against the HOA Vice President, who had begun to harass me on numerous occasions, while the next-door neighbor OF the HOA Vice President tried to run me off of the road, with his truck, and revved the engine of his motorcycle every single time he passed my house. This same man “played chicken” with me on numerous occasions, as I left the neighborhood for doctors' appointments.
Those Boston trips cost me about $12,000, out of pocket, each time I have to go. We just didn't have it, anymore.
Since the time that the Motion for Summary Judgment was decided, in favor of the HOA, I had to file multiple police reports against the HOA Vice President, who had begun to harass me on numerous occasions, while the next-door neighbor OF the HOA Vice President tried to run me off of the road, with his truck, and revved the engine of his motorcycle every single time he passed my house. This same man “played chicken” with me on numerous occasions, as I left the neighborhood for doctors' appointments.
I was physically unable to move out of the neighborhood, to get my health back, or to pursue the outdoor activities that were so critical to both my eyes and the stability of my health.
For months, I did nothing but be seen by medical specialists, all of whom were stumped about how to restore my health.
The dog-owners finally moved from the neighborhood in the spring of 2011, but not before one of their two puppies -- only about three years old -- died.
It was the dog who barked much more than the other, and made me worry that the dogs were truly NOT okay.
The dog died of an autoimmune disease.
I don’t think the dogs ever were okay. I think she was either sick, and barking because she was sick, or the stress of being left alone so much made her sick. Either way, the dog died. It was the worst kind of lose-lose situation, and simply didn't have to happen, in the first place.
They lost a dog, and I lost everything. And for what ?
My wife and I look back, in disbelief, at the whole saga.
We moved to this neighborhood, in Fort Collins, for a better quality of life, and for the sense of community that this neighborhood promised. We tried to do everything right, abide by the law, and be decent in asking the appropriate people and agencies for help, in a civil and reasonable way. We still can’t believe this `happened to us.
Having spent nearly all of the winter of 2011-2012 living as a recluse -- leaving my house only for medical visits, I knew that, as spring came, II would have to tend to the landscaping of my property. There was no way the HOA was going to cut me ANY slack.
But I could find no landscapers to return my call during the busiest part of their season.
Having avoided further threats, assaults, and abuse by the neighbors, by staying inside, it seemed I'd be able to stay inside no longer.
It was clear that the authorities
would do absolutely nothing to protect me from further harm.
For self-defense, I purchased a
handgun, was trained in its use, and openly carried it on my property, while
maintaining the yard -- perfectly legal in Fort Collins.
I’m not a gun guy. I've never
owned a gun in my life. But the
escalating pattern of abuse and torment … against a disabled guy who simply
tried to sleep in his home made it impossible for me to know just how far these
individuals were willing to go. And it
became clear that the authorities weren't going to help me.
I was never going to hurt anybody. I simply had to protect myself from them … again … still.
I was never going to hurt anybody. I simply had to protect myself from them … again … still.
I only stepped outside my house
for the briefest of periods, and after ensuring nobody else was around near my
end of the neighborhood. And … when I
did step outside … I openly and legally carried my gun.
In early June, having seen me carrying a handgun ON my property, the HOA Vice President -- hiding behind both the bushes and the side of his house, in his own yard, 155 feet away, and using an eight-power telephoto lens, (despite having told the Police that he was in his garage with his back to me) took a handful of pictures of me carrying the gun.
He
snapped a handful of pictures during the roughly five minutes I had dared to
exit my house. In all
but one picture, I was looking down at the yard that I was maintaining.
In one picture, I looked straight ahead for a brief moment.
A man with a gun was now looking up ... for a brief moment (seconds).
The pictures look a bit incriminating ... because ... the sequence seems to mysteriously stop with the photo where I was looking straight ahead for a brief moment.
The problem is ... the District Attorney told my criminal lawyer that the Fort Collins Police Department had "advised [the neighbor who took the pictures] that he could destroy some of the photographs."
Let me say that again. The District Attorney told MY lawyer ... that the police told this neighbor (hiding in his bushes, totally invisible to me, and taking pictures with an eight-power telephoto lens) that he could destroy evidence.
The remaining pictures would surely have proved that I was unaware of the presence of anybody else, was simply tending to my lawn and watering my tree, and that I went back inside as quickly as I could.
A man with a gun was now looking up ... for a brief moment (seconds).
The pictures look a bit incriminating ... because ... the sequence seems to mysteriously stop with the photo where I was looking straight ahead for a brief moment.
The problem is ... the District Attorney told my criminal lawyer that the Fort Collins Police Department had "advised [the neighbor who took the pictures] that he could destroy some of the photographs."
Let me say that again. The District Attorney told MY lawyer ... that the police told this neighbor (hiding in his bushes, totally invisible to me, and taking pictures with an eight-power telephoto lens) that he could destroy evidence.
The remaining pictures would surely have proved that I was unaware of the presence of anybody else, was simply tending to my lawn and watering my tree, and that I went back inside as quickly as I could.
Fort Collins Police and SWAT team arrested me.
There were probably 20 law enforcement officers, in full riot gear, all pointing guns at me. There was an armored SWAT vehicle in the street, two doors down, and a sniper pointing a rifle at me from across the street.
This is the image that haunts my dreams,
awakening me nearly every single night.
They jailed me and charged me
with Felony Menacing.
I was given a “Deferred
Prosecution” that required – among other things – an evaluation by a forensic
psychologist. The psychologist concluded
that I …
“responded
appropriately to the emotional stress and turmoil created by the ongoing
dispute by seeking out mental health counseling and his process of problem
resolution was progressive and appropriate to the circumstances. There was no indication that Mr. Brooks responded
impulsively or irrationally during the dispute and, while frustrated by the
circumstances and outcome of his case, he never verbalized retaliatory or
vengeful thoughts against the opposing parties.”
The Court also imposed a Gag Order on me, preventing me from speaking publicly about the case. That Gag Order finally expired, and was dismissed, in September 2014.
Fort Collins has had more than
its share of negative publicity, largely due to government malfeasance. Apparently, this time, they could control the
publicity and be sure nobody knew what they had done … at my expense.
They also imposed a Restraining Order ... on ME ... prohibiting me from having ANY contact with several of the neighbors. Legally ... effectively ... I couldn't go back to my house ... even if I wanted to.
I moved away from Fort Collins, and into a long-term hotel in the Denver area. We were forced to sell our house.
My wife and then separated.
I am still pursuing solutions to the issues with my health. All of my possessions are in Colorado storage spaces, my unprotected, chemically-burned eyes make it impossible for me to live in the State, unless I’m utterly stuck inside – the worst place in the world for me to be.
They also imposed a Restraining Order ... on ME ... prohibiting me from having ANY contact with several of the neighbors. Legally ... effectively ... I couldn't go back to my house ... even if I wanted to.
I moved away from Fort Collins, and into a long-term hotel in the Denver area. We were forced to sell our house.
My wife and then separated.
I am still pursuing solutions to the issues with my health. All of my possessions are in Colorado storage spaces, my unprotected, chemically-burned eyes make it impossible for me to live in the State, unless I’m utterly stuck inside – the worst place in the world for me to be.
Since all of this happened, I have been seen by numerous corneal specialists, all of whom agree that I should not wear my life-saving lenses. I can spend the weeks and the thousands of dollars to TRY to be fit again, but there’s no longer any guarantee that wearing the lenses won’t cause further harm to my eyes.
After talking with Department of
Housing and Urban Development (HUD) attorneys, it became clear that my civil
rights, as a disabled person, had been violated by the neighborhood, the
Homeowners’ Association, and their property management company, when the
Homeowners' Association denied me the "reasonable accommodation"
needed to maintain my quality of life.
All I ever asked was that the dogs' barking be curbed. That’s it. Nothing more.
It's also likely that the City, the County, and the various governmental agencies' refusal to act constituted a violation of the Americans with Disabilities Act.
Unfortunately, my attorney -- from the onset -- told me that there were no federal discrimination issues, in the case. She was wrong. If she had made a simple phone call, to see that my case WAS Federal, the case would have been heard outside of Fort Collins, and would have -- almost certainly -- yielded a different result.
Still unable to safely wear the life-saving custom lenses, I left the country, for Central America, in March 2013, on the theory that the extreme humidity of the region might help me stave off additional sight-threatening complications. It did not work.
In August 2013, I returned to the States, to live with family members, and -- once again -- pursue a path back to the Boston clinic that could TRY, again, to make new lenses for me. The trip is extremely expensive and extremely painful. I tried to save money, and began working with a Pain Clinic, a Palliative Care Clinic, and a team of doctors, to get the pain under control, and -- hopefully -- allow me to make the Boston journey anew.
Unfortunately, on Christmas Day, I got sick. Seriously sick.
All I ever asked was that the dogs' barking be curbed. That’s it. Nothing more.
It's also likely that the City, the County, and the various governmental agencies' refusal to act constituted a violation of the Americans with Disabilities Act.
Unfortunately, my attorney -- from the onset -- told me that there were no federal discrimination issues, in the case. She was wrong. If she had made a simple phone call, to see that my case WAS Federal, the case would have been heard outside of Fort Collins, and would have -- almost certainly -- yielded a different result.
Still unable to safely wear the life-saving custom lenses, I left the country, for Central America, in March 2013, on the theory that the extreme humidity of the region might help me stave off additional sight-threatening complications. It did not work.
In August 2013, I returned to the States, to live with family members, and -- once again -- pursue a path back to the Boston clinic that could TRY, again, to make new lenses for me. The trip is extremely expensive and extremely painful. I tried to save money, and began working with a Pain Clinic, a Palliative Care Clinic, and a team of doctors, to get the pain under control, and -- hopefully -- allow me to make the Boston journey anew.
Unfortunately, on Christmas Day, I got sick. Seriously sick.
After months of doctor visits and
procedures, followed by a three-week long trip to the Mayo Clinic, I got a
diagnosis of DRESS Syndrome – a life-threatening reaction to a prescription
medication – in this case, most likely the anticonvulsant that was prescribed
to try to manage my corneal nerve pain.
The Mayo Clinic recommended that I
avoid any medication not deemed “absolutely essential,” leaving me with no custom
lenses, and no options for treating the recurrent infections OR the chronic
corneal nerve pain.
So ... now, I can't be inside (everything at near triggers that charley horse in the focusing muscles of my eyes), and I can't be outside (light, wind, cold, dust, heating, air conditioning ... all sear my eyes. It's like having seriously chapped lips, or a sunburn -- in your eyes -- and not being able to put anything on them).
I can't treat the chronic neuropathic pain in my eyes, the recurrent infections (that I can no longer stave off), or ... the new addition ... the Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder that I acquired as a result OF this experience.
The local newspaper -- the Fort Collins Coloradoan -- won't cover my story. They were only too happy to put my SWAT arrest on their front page, including a picture of me in the orange jail outfit. They seem totally uninterested in publishing what REALLY happened.
Color me surprised....
The cult of residents in that
neighborhood, and the City of Fort Collins, Colorado … have truly taken everything
away from me, a disabled man … who had never hurt a soul … and who wanted nothing
more than to be able to sleep in his new house.
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Pictures to show you how close
together the two houses were/are:
The yellow wall, toward the rear
of the photo, is my bedroom. This picture was from the listing, when the neighbors
finally sold their house:
What it looks like to hide in the
bushes ... 155 feet away ... taking photos with an eight-power (8X) telephoto lens, while the disabled
guy (that you've been abusing and tormenting) takes three minutes to water his
tree ... while openly and legally carrying a handgun on his person ... so you
don't hurt him.
Hurt him ... more:
And THIS ... was the view out our
window of the precious sister-puppies. Imagine when they were between the
neighbors’ house and the fence line, running toward the street (as they often
were, when ANYBODY passed by either of our houses), and barking ... and barking
... and barking:
UPDATES:
In September 2014, I began having dizziness and shortness of breath episodes, determined to be Atrial Fibrillation and Atrial Flutter. Cardiology sent me to Electrophysiology (EP).
The EP doc had previously seen two cases of DRESS Syndrome before, so ... while he deemed it critical that we get the arrhythmias under control, he didn't believe that either of the two options (antiarrhythmics + anticoagulants or heart surgery (bilateral cardiac RF ablation) PLUS anticoagulants) was safe.
So the heart trouble gets worse.
I've had dozens of episodes of near-syncope (world goes gray/black, almost passing out). I wonder if these people really DID kill me ......
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In January 2015, I was interviewed (for the full hour) by the On The Commons radio show -- a show about Homeowners Associations:
LINK - CLICK HERE
The audio podcast can be found here:
LINK - CLICK HERE
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Wow Neil..
ReplyDeleteSo horrible on so many levels.
ReplyDeleteI cannot believe the absolute and total irresponsibility and insensitivity of some dog owners. The fact that the HOA backed them up so far is unbelievable.
Some dog owners? SOME? I've become convinced that MOST dog owners are like Neil's neighbors.
DeleteBecause if you DARE to complain about the oh-so-important utterances coming from sweet little FiFi, you are truly an evil person. Who is to be scorned forever.
@Your Quiet Neighbor I know to what you are referring to but please do not make such a broad statement. I own three dogs and they are very well trained and only bark when someone comes into my house that is unknown to them. I used a beep first than 10-stage bark collar and it stopped all barking in days. I bought it for 80 dollars. Remember that it is only the noisy dogs that you hear.
DeleteThese people in his neighborhood are too self-centered and so where all the rest! I have owned dogs since I was 4 years old and never once have I gotten anything but how cute, cuddly, friendly, and quiet they are. I learned how to train dogs from a library book at the age of 4 and take responsibility for everything my animals do as if I did it myself! You can only comment on the bad 1% since you have little experience with the other 99%. BTW, I too am disabled in body like Neil except for my eyes. I know what it is like.
As a responsible dog owner, I often bring other dog owners to small claims court. This happens after two verbal and written warnings. (Registered mail and certified via the bank as a legal document.) Third step being having the police showing up, writing a report, and GIVING me a copy on the spot where I verify all the information is correct and if not have the police before leaving correct and/or add more detail to the report and get another copy. I have literally taken over 300 dogs away from their previous owners (since I HATE KILLED CENTERS), retrained them, and put them up for adoption myself. I do charge a fee as I supply an instruction book on everything I said above and a FAQ. A month’s supply of food and exactly what brand, how much and often feeding should happen, the correct beeping shock collar with 2 sets of replacement batteries, Fixed/Neutered and so much more. People call my wife and me the doggy warriors. I even take troubled dogs from the Humane Society, over time correct their issues, and fine them the perfect home. People pay a minimum of $2000.00(min) and sometimes much more to cover the costs (and I am still losing money on it! Except for the supplies and collar the rest of the money goes to the local shelters to prevent putting dogs to sleep) but I have never had a single call from the police (they are chipped with my contact info should any trouble arise including barking).
I have people once a month for 4 days were we go to a dog friendly camp with me where MY whole family helps teach them all that we have learned. To qualify for this FREE program you have to follow all the laws, buy the required collar, vest, and both types of high quality dog walking ropes (for those with 2 animals they must also buy a V rope chain), the right food, and about 50 other requirements. I just came back from this camp two days ago this being the 14th yearly camp anniversary. My son, daughter and me are all AUTISTIC WITH ADHD & my wife is has ADD and all are of great help at the camps and other events. They honestly now do most of the work since my back and right leg no longer work.
However, the main point is this. The people that I have taken their animals from them are usually able to get them back (63%). (They also have to do a separate animal care and law enforcement course at the Humane Society.) With the exception of Niels case were literally he was F&&&ED. Most owners believe that their way is right and need a very rude awakening. If Neil had gotten the written warnings via certified mail and a Police report and had someone verify that not only all the information on it was correct but also with enough detail he would not have had been in living hell for the last 5 years.
P.S. If anyone needs information on how to do training, please feel free to contact me at
worldseyes (D@OMAIN) yahoo com
Either my son age 10 Cub Scout order of the arrow or myself will answer as many as are feasible & please parents help yourself keep your sanity and your sons honor and growth and have them join cub/boy scouts today!
Most people shouldn't be owning dog at all-they should be having children, or forming relationships.
DeleteWhile I definitely take your point, responsible dog ownership really isn't all that hard. It just takes awareness, understanding, information, commitment, and consistency.
DeleteI'd almost look at dogs as a dress rehearsal. People like my neighbors ... who failed dog ownership miserably ... aren't likely to do much better with children.
Maybe house plants ;-)
Did you ever consider using noise canceling headphones in the beginning of the ordeal? You could have saved a lot of pain if they worked right.
ReplyDeleteNope.
DeleteVery good question, though.
For whatever reason, ear PLUGS and ear BUDS (like you use with an iPod) simply wouldn't stay in my ears.
Ear buds fell out immediately (ie, wouldn't stay in).
Ear plugs fell out while sleeping.
Headphones (I tried several pair, but not the noise-cancelling type) were too big and bulky, meaning ... once I fell asleep ... if I moved/rolled over ... they came off.
Same result in both cases, then ... a few hours later ... the barking would wake me up.
Thanks for reading ... and for the question.
Why should Neil have to go to all this trouble? Buying ear plugs. Buying ear buds. Buying headphones. And then finding that all of these things don't work.
DeleteThe answer is simple: Quiet the damn dogs! And, if you can't do that, don't have a dog. Remember, it's OKAY to be pet-free.
I too am a quiet and pet-free neighbor who is annoyed when my neighbors allow their stupid mutt to crap in MY yard (which it seems to love to do) and they attract OTHER wandering dogs into our neighborhood by putting out food for them making it unsafe for vulnerable older adults to walk because the wild dogs can upset at you. I wish the whole world were animal free sometimes or at least people would develop common sense and manners regarding them!
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ReplyDeleteWell, What a story! I've been living this nightmare for 4 1/2 years now. Our bedroom is shaped exactly like yours was and it just soaked up the barking from the 4 pit bulls chained up in a pen by the fence. The worst barking was in the middle of the night. The court date came and the judge ordered the dogs off the property. It was quiet for a while then we discover that they had kept one female for their breeder, and now they are back to 3 pits - the breeder and the 2 XXL pit bulls that are huge. So after all the money we have put out on court costs - we will have to do it again with a different judge. Who knows what will happen and our house will not sale on this street anymore. I am very sorry for what you have gone through and I hope life is better to you in the future.
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DeleteWow. Man, Oh, Man, am I sorry. 4-1/2 years, and ... I would guess ... no end in sight.
I don't understand it. I don't think I'll EVER understand it.
The only thing I can do is hold you in my thoughts, and pray that you get some relief ... before it takes your health apart.
Have you tried calling the local/regional media ???
Best of luck. Truly. And thanks for your comment.
For $100 or so, I can show you what to buy, and how to make a dog whistle that will stop their barking. It is NOT inhumane. What IS inhumane is a dog owner who does nothing with their dogs except stick them alone in their yard day and night and suffer them with no human companionship. THAT is torturing the dogs. The constant barking is torturing you. I know, because I lived it too. I do not suffer now.
ReplyDeleteIt's years too late for me, Phyllis, but ... with luck ... not for somebody else.
DeleteI agree wholeheartedly, though: they tortured me ... AND tortured their poor dogs.
When the solution was so profoundly simple.
I don't know what's worse, noisy animals, loud music & bass or traffic. All of the above, I suppose. This particular situation seems to have escalated into a passive-aggressive Twilight Zone episode. The houses are built ridiculously close together, almost like a condo. Another 10 or 20 feet might not have mattered with those dogs, though. At least you didn't deal with the infamous Mr. Terranova (also in CO) who openly warned of his noise.
ReplyDeleteIt's unclear why good foam earplugs wouldn't stay in if inserted properly, but you shouldn't be forced to sacrifice your hearing, especially at night when other dangers might go unheard.
I suspect there's another side to this story but I haven't walked in your shoes and people in mob mode can be impossible to reason with. Once lines are drawn human nature gets ugly. This is not a species that likes to compromise beyond a certain threshold of politeness.
People have different shaped ear canals. Ear buds used to hurt my ears until they started making them softer. They still fall out frequently, but not like they used to.
DeleteI want to add that overpopulation is mostly to blame for denser housing configurations. America may seem to have "plenty of land" but farmland and wilderness is being continually lost to housing sprawl, with the additional factor of energy sprawl, like oil wells, wind turbines and solar arrays.
ReplyDeleteIf we really want to slow the trend toward dense, noisy subdivisions in this nation of "I do what I want, just deal with it!" we need much more birth control to reduce local and immigrant growth. The current world population gain is nearly 80 million per year, with about 3 million of that number ending up in America. "Smart growth" just attempts to rearrange growing herds of people inside a finite area and will keep creating conflicts. Noise and population size are directly related.
These people were downright TERRIBLE no doubt! Still, without asking to be skewered here, it seems to me, that as awful as this HOA and neighborhood was, that HE built his house with the bedroom there KNOWING that it could be a problem and CHOOSING to assume they would be reasonable about it. Obviously the man was wrong, but he DID make his bed, so to speak.
ReplyDeleteYou're not really correct.
DeleteWe didn't have any input on the floor plan of the house; only interior finishes.
Neither did we have any idea that the bedroom would run parallel to the neighbors' yard. I've actually never seen that anywhere else in my life. It's a recipe for disaster.
As to the rest of it ... I won't be doing any skewering. Instead, I'll simply point you here:
http://bullying.about.com/od/Victims/fl/6-Examples-of-Victim-Blaming.htm
I'm so terribly sorry for what's happened to you, because it's so desperately unfair. You've lost everything, all because of this permissive attitude that I often see now of it's my dog's/child's/my fault. People get so defensive so easily, when as you correctly point out, all they had to do was discuss the issue with you. I can identify with you about neuropathic pain, which I have all over my body, and it is really painful. My neuropathy stems from type 1 diabetes, and effects me anywhere from numbness to severe electric shocks, but I can't even imagine how that would effect your eyes. It's making me wince just thinking about it. I know your own psychologist has written a report from which you quoted, but if I were to add my own two cents, your reactions to what's happened seem more than reasonable to me. I can only comment on what you've posted here, but it seems you're coming from a very rational state of mind. You did not offer violence, or extreme anger, or seek revenge, which is what many people would have been tempted to do. Take care of yourself, and stay the person you are.
ReplyDeleteMany thanks for your kind words, Emily.
DeleteDiabetes is another one. To those who don't understand it, it just sounds like you have to be careful what you eat.
But a relative of mine was an executive at the American Diabetes Association. Through her, I learned what a savage disease it can be, and just how many parts of the body are vulnerable to it.
As I'm fond of saying ... there were a thousand easy, workable, reasonable, and decent solutions to my situation. It still boggles my mind that all of these people chose the path they did ... instead of any of the humane options.
I read through all your story, and can really sympathize. I posted a comment on your summary of it, but that was just one thing I've been through with housing. I've had several issues with neighbors blasting stereos at all hours and they were drugging and everything else. People never understand that lack of sleep can definitely make you very physically ill. I even had neighbors with a loud set of windchimes than rang through my bedroom and entire place. Believe me, they didn't care at all. Each time, I had to be the one to move. Me, who is quiet and mostly housebound. I always had to move. I'm now in an apartment where my upstairs neighbor insists on daily loud stereo blasting in the afternoons and often at dinnertime. Sometimes early mornings. I have to put blasting white noise on so my place sounds like an airport, but it does cover the music. These people destroy our health, get us for every dime we have, and our lives are left ruined. I have CFIDS/ME, Advanced Lyme, Fibro and other stuff with it. My back was destroyed from all the moving. I rarely go out, and my money is gone from it all, too. I'm glad your suffering from the barking finally ended. And I hope you get alittle health relief.
ReplyDelete"These people destroy our health, get us for every dime we have, and our lives are left ruined."
DeleteAmen.
I'm so sorry you've been through the horror of noisy, inconsiderate neighbors, too. You're right: it can make a healthy person sick, and ... well ... what it can do to an unhealthy person is just a crime.
You've truly got a lot of medical issues on your plate. Breaks my heart.
I wish you peace, health, and strength.
And my sincere thanks for taking the time to read my story.